Five days after my due date, there was still no baby, no effacement, and I was not dilated at all. Being diagnosed with an “incompetent cervix” was depressing and defeating. Like, how the fuck can a cervix be incompetent?! Who coined that term? It felt pretty crappy to say the least. Yes, I had a pretty traumatic birth experience followed by a NICU stay after my first pregnancy. But baby #2 was a breeze - I didn’t even have to work or try to birth her. So much for incompetent, huh?