If your kid came to you with a difficult question/experience about sex or relationships, what would you most want them to feel during that conversation?
- Brianna Allen
- Jan 5
- 2 min read
That I was 100% safe to be talking to and they believed what I said to be true, not just platitudes or my own opinion or manipulation to influence the outcome. That I trust them to make good decisions when they have good information
I would want my child to feel heard. Them to feel like I was an adult they trusted cared about them and their experience. And them to feel like the adult they trusted with this experience or situation was giving them an honest answer and real feedback based on medicine/science/reality.
I would most want them to feel heard, supported, and understood. I try to remember to ask first if they wanted advice, but sometimes it slips out before I realize it.
Relaxed.
Like they were in a safe space to talk to me about anything.
I hope that I am able to provide a safe space for them to feel supported, understood, and only offered advice when they want and need it. I also hope that I can help them access other supportive adults that can help them make the best choices for them.
I want them to feel safe with me. Never judged. Safety, openness and honesty.
Heard. Loved. Hopeful
Safe
Safe and comforted
Safety, and support. My job isn't to judge them, but to be present and offer advice when they need it.
Like they were safe and made the right decision to come to me. Always.
I hope that I am able to provide a safe space for them to feel supported, understood, and only offered advice when they want and need it. I also hope that I can help them access other supportive adults that can help them make the best choices for them.
I would want them to feel heard, safe, listened to.
If my child came to me with a difficult question or experience about sex or relationships, I would most want them to feel heard. One of my biggest lessons in parenting has been learning not to immediately jump into offering my own insights when they are sharing their thoughts and experiences. My ongoing goal is to leave space for them to expand their thinking in a safe, accepting environment. While I do still share my perspectives—because I've found that connection and identification is meaningful—I’ve learned that simply naming my past mistakes hasn’t always helped them avoid similar challenges. I believe that when they are supported in thinking things through and coming to their own conclusions, their decision-making becomes more confident, intentional, and decisive.
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